If your family is like mine, then the morning of the working day is crazy. To be honest, I am not entirely sure why. My 6-year-old early riser wakes up three hours before school starts, so we have enough time. I am grateful that my two children finally returned to full-time school. You would think that I am more Zen about am scramble.

Nevertheless, the rush to go out is still chaotic. My children yelled at each other, and I yelled at them. I nag. Normally, they did arrive at school on time. But this always feels like an unnecessary crazy race.

I really want to change this pattern and find some peace and unity before going to school and work-if not every day, then at least sometimes. Therefore, I asked members of the HuffPost Parenting community to share how they can reduce morning stress and establish more connections.

This is what they have to say:

The most popular morning hack sent by parents is very simple, really: list what needs to be done in the morning so that everyone knows it.

Some parents have an artistic sense of it. "I drew it on a large piece of rainbow-colored paper," Mesa said. "You can become more creative, make a pocket for each item, and move the popsicle stick to each finished item."

Alane said that she used Canva to design a chart, and then she laminated it-this provides "the core source of truth for what we do every morning and every day." "Because it is regrettable," she added, "he can even use a dry erase pen to check what we have done so far to further help him understand where we are in the schedule."

No matter what it looks like, the chart or list is all about minimizing nagging.

"For my 6-year-old child, we made a regular chart (with pictures) and posted it on the wall of his bedroom. It covered all the steps he had to complete before he could do any extra things, such as playing Lego blocks, watching TV or reading," Sheridan said. "When he starts to do something and I know he hasn't completed all the steps, I will calmly say'check your chart.'"

"I think the workday morning with the children should be planned in advance-go to bed early, pack lunch, pack football, ballet, and tennis equipment," Bussy said. Another important reminder from her is to relax everyone and realize that no matter what, some mornings will be rushed and grumpy. ("We must forgive ourselves," she said. "And forgive them.")

Other parents emphasized the importance of involving their children in preparation. "In the school night before you started going to bed, did the children join you in the arrangements for the next morning?" Andre asked. "Does everything at the door need to leave?"

Vickie said she hated packing lunches. She bought two trash cans and the whole family filled them with non-perishable snacks and lunches for a week. Every night, her children would pick something from the trash can and put them in their lunch bags.

Rachel, who uses the same idea, said: "Everything was prepared and arranged the night before-with your help." "This is a big one."

Liz is a nurse, and she has to go out early in the morning. Her partner (teacher) also started very early. Therefore, in order to relieve the stress in the morning, they gave up pajamas. Instead, her children "put on their clothes before going to bed the next day," Liz said. "Although I would not choose to wear khakis to sleep, my children don't seem to mind!"

According to Scott, he is the father of 15, 18, and 20-year-olds and an early childhood psychologist. Just pointing out that children do something positive in the morning can greatly help everyone’s things Become more enjoyable (and effective!).

"It's easy to get off track and focus on negative factors, [for example]:'Stop that, don't do that,'" he said. Conversely, when your children are willing to help and cooperate, catch them and praise them, which will encourage them to do more.

Kira has a 7-year-old and a 10-year-old. She asked her children how long they think they need to be prepared.

"Usually, they will ask for a 10-minute warning, so they will set a 10-minute timer before we need to leave, and set another timer when we'need' to leave," she said. Then she went to her home office to do some emails, so they understood that listening to the timer was really their responsibility. They usually take immediate action. (She also uses the points system as a reward, and her children can "cash out" on weekend movie nights or junk food.)

Many parents point out that for children who don’t like to get up early, a well-planned and optimistic morning playlist is your friend.

Syma uses funny, inspirational songs to get her children up and moving in the morning—such as "Jump around" or "Gangam Style" ("It's painful for me, but the kids love it," she said). "My husband had to leave the kitchen for some of them," she joked, "but the kids do get up!"

Or maybe take the calm route. "I am a single, divorced mom with two little girls aged 3 and 8. I set two alarms in the morning, a clock alarm and an Alexa music alarm with inspirational messages," Alex said . "Recently, I switched the music from pop music to gospel music, trying to make them feel calm in the morning. Sometimes it works, sometimes we argue about brushing our teeth and wearing socks."

Sometimes parents worry about using rewards to motivate their children, but this is definitely one of the most popular morning tips submitted by parents. Beth is the mother of two teenagers and a teenager. She said that when her children were young, she liked to give them special things on the way to school by car. "A favorite book, fruit snacks, juice boxes-whatever," she said. She doesn't give those small snacks every day, but enough time to make her children feel motivated.

Similarly, Elizabeth allows her 4-year-old child to use the iPad on the way to school, and if he brushes his teeth or wears clothes, he is not supervised.

"He has to try at least one task (for example, wearing socks) to ask for help. We use a timer, so if there are 15 minutes before the departure time and he has not started to wear clothes, I will issue a warning and explain the consequences (no iPad ),"she says. "If he is grumpy and doesn't want to wear clothes, well, I will catch him and dress him, but the car he goes to school is free. The car is almost the only time he gets an iPad, so he is very motivated by it. ."

Other parents say that they use a point system or chart, and their children can cash in rewards, such as movie nights or small toys they have been paying attention to.

Sarah, who has two teenagers, said that although children are sometimes a little lazy or stubborn in the morning, it is also worth trying whether you ask them to do something that they are not fully capable of in terms of development. And run an online company to help busy parents find balance.

"Are you expecting or asking them to do something beyond their ability to develop?" she asked. "If you can, the kids want to do well."

Take a moment to catch your breath and ask yourself if you are too demanding of your child's skills or emotional abilities. Sarah said it can make all the difference.

While things like charts, lists, and playlists can help make the morning easier, sometimes you just need to make your child aware that you are struggling and ask if they can participate.

"This is a technique suggested by my therapist," said Alisha, the mother of two. "Rather than blaming the children for their rottenness, seek their help. I told them:'I will be at a loss in the morning. 8 to 8:15 in the morning is the most difficult time for me. So by then, I will really I need your help so that we can have a good morning and arrive at school on time. This is like a charm!"